I’m looking for ways to encourage good behavior in my kids. What are some effective positive reinforcement techniques that work well for children? I’ve tried praise and small rewards, but I’m wondering if there are other methods I might not have thought of. Any ideas or experiences to share?
I’ve tried a bunch of different things over the years. One that stuck was our ‘good deed jar.’ The kids would add a marble whenever they did something helpful or kind. Once it was full, we’d do a fun family activity they chose.
As they got older, we switched to a point system. Points could be traded for privileges like extra gaming time or picking the movie for family night. It took some trial and error to find the right balance of rewards.
What really made a difference was letting them have some input. We’d sit down every few months and talk about what was working and what wasn’t. Sometimes they’d surprise me with great ideas! It helped them feel more invested in the whole process. 
Consistency was tough at first, but it got easier once it became part of our routine. Now my teens mostly do their stuff without reminders. Hang in there, it does get better!
Sticker charts worked well for my kids. They’d get a sticker for good behavior and could trade them in for small treats or extra screen time.
My 12-year-old responds better to earning privileges now, like staying up later on weekends.
In our house, we’ve had good luck with a gratitude board. The kids write down things they’re thankful for or nice things they did. It’s simple but works well.
We also do ‘caught being good’ tickets. When I notice them helping out or being kind, they get a ticket. They can save them up for small prizes or experiences.
My youngest loves when we make up silly songs about tasks. It turns boring chores into fun moments. My older one prefers earning extra time for hobbies.
It’s been trial and error finding what clicks. Some weeks are great, others not so much. But overall, focusing on the positives has made a big difference in how we all interact.
I’ve found that turning chores into games can be pretty effective. Last week, I set up a ‘beat the clock’ challenge for my kid to tidy their room. They got really into it!
Another thing that’s worked well is letting them choose their own rewards. We brainstormed a list together, and now they can pick something from it when they’ve been helpful. It gives them a sense of control.
These approaches don’t always work perfectly, but they’ve definitely made chores less of a battle in our house. It’s been interesting to see what motivates my child as they’ve gotten older.
I’ve been trying different things with my 5-year-old too. We started a ‘special helper’ system where they get to wear a badge when doing chores. It’s hit or miss though.
I’m curious about how other parents handle consistency. Some days my kid is excited to help, other days not so much. Do you find your kids are more motivated by tangible rewards or by praise and recognition? I’d love to hear what’s worked long-term for others.