I’m at my wit’s end with my marriage. My husband and I have been together for over a decade, with two kids. But I feel like I’m doing everything alone.
I handle all the household chores, kid stuff, and bills. He barely helps out, even when he promises to. He criticizes how I do things, from loading the dishwasher to watching TV. When I visit family, he gets mad if dinner isn’t ready when I return.
He takes time off work but doesn’t use it to help around the house. Instead, he just drinks with friends. I’m exhausted and feeling really down.
Am I wrong for thinking about divorce? I’m not sure what else to do at this point. Any advice would be appreciated.
I’ve been in a similar situation and it’s really tough. What helped us was creating a simple chart of daily and weekly tasks. We put it on the fridge and took turns checking things off.
At first my husband wasn’t into it, but seeing the list made him realize how much was actually involved in running the house. We started small, with him taking on a few regular tasks.
Over time, he got more involved. It wasn’t perfect, but it did get better. Having everything visible made a big difference. Maybe something like that could work for you too?
Before making any big decisions, it might be worth trying a few different approaches to get him more involved.
I’ve been through something similar, and it’s really tough. Looking back, one thing that helped was sitting down together to list out all the household tasks. It was eye-opening for my husband to see everything written down.
We started small, with him taking on just a few regular chores. It wasn’t perfect at first, but over time it got better. Having a visual reminder, like a chart on the fridge, made a big difference.
Open communication was key for us. I had to be really clear about how overwhelmed I felt. It took time, but eventually we found a better balance.
Before making any big decisions, it might be worth trying a few different approaches. Every family is different, so what worked for us might not work for you. But don’t give up on finding a solution that works for your family.
I can relate to feeling overwhelmed with household responsibilities. My situation isn’t as extreme, but I’ve struggled to get my spouse more involved with chores too.
Have you tried using a chore app or chart to track tasks? I’m curious if seeing everything laid out visually might help your husband understand how much you’re doing.
We started small by having my partner take on just 2-3 regular tasks. It wasn’t perfect at first, but gradually improved. Now I’m wondering - did others find it took a while for new habits to stick? Or did you see quicker changes?
I hope you can find a way to rebalance things. It’s so draining to feel like you’re doing it all alone.
Balancing responsibilities in a marriage can be tough. I’ve had similar struggles with my partner over the years. We found that sitting down together and making a list of all the household tasks helped us see the full picture. Then we tried dividing things up more fairly.
It took time and effort, but we gradually got into a better rhythm. Open communication was key for us. Maybe you could try having an honest conversation with your husband about how you’re feeling overwhelmed? Sometimes people don’t realize how much their partner is taking on.
