Hey everyone, I’m looking for some suggestions on setting up a reward system for good behavior with my kids. We’ve tried a few things, but nothing’s really stuck. Does anyone have any creative ideas that have worked well for them? I’m open to pretty much anything - charts, point systems, whatever. Just want something that’ll actually motivate them without being too complicated. Thanks!
When my kids were younger, we tried a few different systems before finding one that stuck. What worked best for us was a mix of immediate and long-term rewards. We used a simple chart where they could see their progress, but we also had a jar where they could earn marbles for good behavior or extra chores.
Once the jar was full, they got to choose a special activity or treat. This combo kept them interested day-to-day but also gave them something bigger to work towards. It wasn’t perfect, but it definitely helped cut down on nagging and arguments.
As they got older, we adjusted the system. Now it’s more about earning privileges like extra screen time or later bedtimes on weekends. The key was finding what motivated each kid and being consistent with it. 
It took some trial and error, but hang in there!
We’ve had success with a ‘Good Choices Jar’ in our house. It’s a clear container where the kids add a colorful pom-pom when they make good choices or do something helpful. They love seeing it fill up!
When it’s full, we have a fun family activity like a movie night or trip to the park. The visual aspect really keeps them engaged. Plus, it’s easy to praise their efforts as we go.
Sometimes we switch up what goes in the jar or what the reward is to keep things fresh. Our youngest gets excited about earning pom-poms, while our older one enjoys planning the family reward.
It’s not perfect every day, but overall it’s helped create a more positive vibe at home. The kids seem proud when they contribute to filling the jar.
A sticker chart worked for a while. Then we switched to a point system on the fridge. Kids could earn points for chores and good behavior. They’d cash in points for small rewards or save up for bigger ones.
Kept it simple and adjusted as they grew.
I’ve been trying different things with my child too. Right now we use a simple chart with stickers for completed tasks. It works well on some days but other times it’s a struggle. I’m curious about point systems and how they might be adjusted for younger kids. How have others kept it engaging without making it too complex?
I’d love to hear what has worked long-term. I sometimes worry that leaning on rewards might not build lasting habits, so I’m still figuring it all out.
We’ve been experimenting with different approaches too. Recently, we started a ‘Task Adventure’ where chores are like quests in a game. My kid earns points for each task, which can be used to ‘level up’ privileges or choose fun family activities.
It’s not always smooth sailing, but turning it into a game has definitely increased enthusiasm. We adjust the ‘quests’ and rewards based on what’s working. Some days are better than others, but overall it’s made chores less of a battle in our house.