I’ve been trying to use more positive language with my kids lately, but I’m not sure if it’s really making a difference. Has anyone here had success with this approach? I’m curious about how well it actually works for shaping behavior in the long run. Any experiences or insights would be helpful.
I noticed changes over time when I focused on positive language with my kids. My younger child’s confidence improved, though my older one didn’t change much. I mix in other methods too.
In our family, positive words have been part of our approach for a while now. We’ve seen some good results, especially with our younger child. She’s become more eager to help out and try new things.
Our older one took longer to respond, but we’ve noticed small improvements. We found that combining positive language with clear routines worked well. For example, we have a morning checklist, and we praise specific tasks completed.
Something that’s helped is focusing on effort rather than results. When they struggle with homework, we might say ‘I like how you’re sticking with it’ instead of just praising correct answers.
It’s not perfect - we still have tough days. But overall, the positive words seem to create a happier atmosphere at home. It’s a gradual process, and we’re still learning what works best for each kid.
I’ve been trying positive words with my 5-year-old for a few months now. It seems to work sometimes, but other times it feels like it’s not sinking in at all. I’m curious about the long-term effects too.
Has anyone tried combining positive language with other methods? I’m wondering if maybe a mix of approaches might work better. What else have people found effective alongside positive words?
I’ve had some small wins with praising specific actions, but I’m still figuring it out. It’s encouraging to hear others have seen changes over time. How long did it take before you noticed a real difference?
In our house, we’ve been experimenting with positive words for a while now. It’s had some interesting effects on my kid’s behavior. I’ve noticed my child is more willing to tackle tasks when I frame them positively. For example, saying ‘Let’s see how fast you can tidy up!’ often works better than just telling them to clean their room.
I’ve found it helps to be specific with praise too. Saying ‘You did a great job putting all your toys in the right bins’ seems more effective than a general ‘good job’. It’s not perfect, and some days are definitely better than others, but overall I feel like it’s creating a more positive atmosphere at home.
I’ve used positive words with my kids for years, and it’s had mixed results. My younger one responded well, becoming more confident and eager to help. But my older teen? Not so much at first. 
What worked better was combining positive language with clear expectations and consequences. I’d praise specific actions, like “Thanks for unloading the dishwasher without being asked,” but also had set chores they needed to do to earn privileges.
It took a while to see big changes, maybe a few months of consistency. But the key was finding what motivated each kid. My younger one loved earning points for a special outing, while my older one cared more about having later curfews. Positive words alone weren’t enough, but they definitely helped smooth things out when used alongside other strategies.