I’ve been trying to teach my kids to make good choices, and I’m wondering if using rewards is a good approach. Has anyone had success with this method? I’m not sure if it actually helps them learn decision-making skills or if it just encourages them to do what gets them a reward. Any thoughts or experiences would be helpful!
I’ve found that turning decision-making into a game can be pretty effective. We have a ‘Choice Champion’ challenge where my kid earns points for good decisions throughout the week. The points can be used for fun family activities, not material rewards.
It’s been interesting to see how this approach has evolved as my child has grown. Now we often discuss the reasoning behind choices, and I’ve noticed more thoughtful decision-making even when there’s no reward involved.
Still, I wonder about the long-term effects and if this method will need adjusting as my child gets older.
I’ve been down this road with my kids, and it’s definitely a journey. When they were little, we used a simple reward system for good choices. It worked at first, but as they grew, we had to change things up.
For my 14-year-old, we now focus more on natural consequences. If she makes good decisions about homework, she has more free time. My 17-year-old gets more freedom when he shows he can handle it responsibly.
We still have some rewards, but they’re more about recognition than material things. A special family dinner or extra driving practice time means a lot to them. 
The key for us was gradually shifting from external rewards to helping them see the intrinsic benefits of good choices. It takes time, but it’s worth it to see them making smart decisions on their own now.
We’ve found a mix of small rewards and regular talks about choices works well for us. Our kids get stickers on a chart for good decisions, which they can trade for little treats or extra screen time.
But we also chat about why certain choices are better and how they affect others. This helps them understand the reasoning behind good decisions, not just doing it for a reward.
As they’ve gotten older, we’ve gradually reduced the rewards. Now they often make good choices because it feels right, not for a prize. It’s been a slow process, but we’re seeing results.
Every family is different though. What works for us might not work for everyone. It’s all about finding what fits your kids and situation.
Rewards worked okay when my kids were younger. As they got older, we talked more about why choices matter.
Now, my 12-year-old makes good decisions without expecting anything. My 9-year-old still likes small rewards sometimes.
It’s different for each kid. We adjust as they grow.
I’ve been trying rewards with my 5-year-old for making good choices. Sometimes it works, other times not so much. I’m curious how long-term this approach is.
Does anyone have experience with phasing out rewards? I worry my kid might always expect something for good behavior. But then again, maybe that’s how the world works?
I’d love to hear what’s worked for others, especially as kids get older. Are there ways to teach decision-making without always giving prizes?