I’ve been trying to work on my kids’ behavior lately, but it’s not easy to keep it consistent throughout the day. Anyone have tips on how to naturally include reinforcement strategies in our regular routines? Like during meals, bedtime, or even just hanging out at home? I’m looking for simple ideas that won’t feel forced or disrupt our normal flow too much. Thanks!
When my kids were younger, we used a simple ‘thumbs up’ system throughout the day. I’d give a quick thumbs up for good behavior during meals or while doing homework. No words needed, just a silent acknowledgment.
It became a fun game for them to spot when they’d earned a thumbs up. We kept a tally on a whiteboard, and at the end of the week, the total determined a small treat or extra privilege.
As they got older, we switched to a point system on their phones. They could earn points for chores or good choices, then ‘spend’ them on things like picking the movie for family night or having a friend over.
What I liked was how these methods fit into our day without disrupting our routines. The key was finding what motivated each kid and adjusting as they grew. 
We started using ‘catch them being good’ in our house. It’s pretty simple - I just point out when the kids do something helpful or kind.
For meals, I might say ‘Thanks for setting the table without being asked.’ During homework time, ‘I noticed you didn’t give up on that tricky math problem.’
The kids seem to like the positive attention. They’ve started doing more good things on their own.
We also have a family game night each week. The kids can earn extra time to stay up and play by doing their chores or being extra helpful. They get excited about it and it motivates them throughout the week.
It’s not perfect, but it’s made things a bit smoother around here. The key has been staying consistent and finding little ways to notice the good stuff.
I’m curious about behavior reinforcement too. My 5-year-old is hit or miss with listening.
We started a ‘Good Choice Jar’ recently. When I catch my kid making good choices, we add a pom-pom to the jar. Once it’s full, we do a fun activity together.
It’s working okay so far, but I wonder if it’ll last. Has anyone tried something similar long-term? Did your kids eventually do good things without needing the reward?
I like the bedtime race idea! Maybe we’ll try that next. My kid loves competitions.
My kid and I started a fun bedtime challenge. We set a timer and race to get ready - teeth brushed, pajamas on, etc.
Whoever finishes first gets to pick the bedtime story, turning our routine into a playful contest.
Lately, I’ve noticed my child is more cooperative at bedtime, and this small reward feels natural rather than forced.
Sticker charts worked well for us. Put them on the fridge. Kids got stickers for good behavior during meals or bedtime.
They loved seeing their progress. Kept things simple and part of our routine.