I’ve been trying to help my kids become more independent but I’m not sure if I’m doing it right. I want to use positive reinforcement instead of always nagging or criticizing them. What are some practical ways you’ve found that work? Like do you praise them for doing things on their own, give them small rewards, or something else? I have a 7 year old and a 10 year old if that matters. Just looking for some real examples of what has actually worked for other parents.
Something that worked for us was setting up a simple chart where my daughter could track her own progress with daily tasks. She gets to mark off things like making her bed or packing her lunch, and at the end of the week we look at it together. What surprised me was how much she enjoyed just seeing her own accomplishments laid out visually. Sometimes I’ll notice her doing something independently that she used to need reminders for, and I make sure to mention it later that day.
I’ve started recognizing the little victories, like when my kids remember to pack their bags on their own. I also hold back from stepping in right away, letting them figure things out first before I acknowledge their efforts.