I’m feeling so bad about what happened when my sister watched my kids while I was in the hospital. I didn’t tell her about their tricky behaviors and now I feel awful.
My daughter (12) went crazy at the store buying stuff she didn’t need. She even grabbed XL thongs saying she needed underwear! My son (13) barely did his chores and lied about finishing them.
I didn’t warn my sister about any of this. She’s always been the fun aunt who says yes to everything. My kids took advantage of her kindness and it makes me so sad.
Now I have to tell my sister to watch out for my daughter’s manipulative behavior and my son’s laziness. It feels like I’m trash-talking my own kids.
Has anyone else been in a situation where their kids’ bad behavior came out because they couldn’t warn the caregiver? I’d love to hear your stories. Not looking for advice, just want to know I’m not alone in this
I can relate to feeling embarrassed about kids’ behavior with other caregivers. It’s happened to me too.
My kids once acted up when my neighbor watched them during an emergency. They stayed up way past bedtime and left toys everywhere. I felt so bad explaining their usual routines afterward.
But my neighbor was really understanding. She said it’s normal for kids to test limits with new people. That made me feel better about the whole thing.
I’ve found talking to the kids later helps. We chat about how their actions affect others and ways to show respect. It’s not always easy, but it usually leads to good conversations.
Maybe you could ask your sister what went well during her time with them? There might be some positives to focus on too.
Oh, I remember those days! When my kids were younger, we had a similar situation with my mom watching them. My daughter decided to redecorate the living room with markers, and my son “forgot” to mention his math homework.
I felt so embarrassed telling my mom about their typical behaviors afterward. But you know what? She just laughed it off. She’d raised kids too and understood they push boundaries with others.
I learned it helps to give caregivers a heads up about potential issues, but also not to stress too much. Kids often act differently when parents aren’t around. It doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.
Have you thought about talking to your kids about what happened? Sometimes hearing how their actions affected others can be eye-opening for them. It might lead to a good conversation about respect and responsibility.
I’ve definitely worried about my kid misbehaving with other caregivers. My 5-year-old can be a handful sometimes.
I wonder if your kids were acting out because of stress from you being in the hospital? Kids often struggle with big changes like that.
Have you talked to your sister about what happened? Maybe she has some insights that could help. And she might surprise you - aunts can be pretty understanding!
What do you usually do when your kids misbehave at home? I’m still figuring out discipline myself and always curious how other parents handle it.
I can relate to your situation. My son once acted up when my parents watched him while I was away for work. Kids often test boundaries with other caregivers.
I found it helpful to have an open conversation with my son afterwards. We talked about expectations and respect for others. It wasn’t easy, but it opened up some good dialogue.
As for your sister, she might surprise you. I bet she understands kids can be challenging sometimes. Maybe you could chat with her about what worked well and what didn’t during her time with them?
It might lead to a good conversation about respect and responsibility.