I’m trying to come up with a better way to handle my kids’ behavior issues. I’ve heard positive reinforcement can be effective, but I’m not sure where to start with creating an actual plan. Has anyone here successfully used this approach? What kinds of things should I include? Any advice on how to structure it or what’s worked well for your family would be really helpful. Thanks!
I remember when my kids were younger, getting them to behave was a real challenge. What worked for us was keeping things simple and consistent. We started with a basic chart on the fridge. Each time they did something good, like putting away toys or helping with dishes, they got a star.
At first, we gave small rewards for filling up a row, like picking the movie for family night. As they got older, we switched to a point system. They could save up points for bigger things they wanted, like a new game or extra allowance.
The key was sticking with it, even when it felt like nothing was changing. It took time, but eventually good behavior became a habit. We still had our moments, but the chart helped everyone stay on track. It was also great to have a visual reminder of all the good things they were doing. 
Every family is different though. You might need to try a few things before finding what clicks for your kids.
I’ve tried a few things with my kids that seem to work pretty well. We have a big whiteboard in the kitchen where we write down daily tasks and good behaviors.
The kids earn points for completing tasks or showing kindness. They can save up for bigger rewards or trade points for small things like extra screen time or picking dinner.
What’s really helped is letting them choose their own rewards. It keeps them excited and teaches them about saving up for things they want.
Some days are still challenging, but overall it’s made a big difference in our house. The visual reminder of the whiteboard keeps everyone on track.
Have you thought about what kinds of rewards might motivate your kids? Finding the right incentives can take some trial and error.
We use a simple point system for chores and good behavior. The kids can save up for bigger rewards or cash in for smaller things.
Letting them choose rewards keeps them motivated. Some days are still tough, but it’s helped build better habits overall.
I’ve been trying something similar with my 11-year-old. We started a points system for chores and good behavior. It’s not perfect, but it’s made a difference.
At first, we used a chart on the fridge. Now we have a fun app that tracks points. My kid can save up for bigger rewards or cash them in for smaller things.
What’s worked best is letting them choose the rewards. It keeps them motivated and teaches budgeting too. Some days are still a struggle, but overall it’s helped create better habits.
Have you thought about what kinds of rewards might work for your kids?
I’ve been wondering about positive reinforcement too. My 5-year-old is still learning to pick up toys and set the table. Sometimes it works, other times not so much.
I started with a simple sticker chart. When my kid fills a row, they get to pick a small toy or extra screen time. It’s helped a bit, but I’m not sure if it’s teaching the right lesson long-term.
What kinds of rewards have worked for your kids? And how do you balance between external rewards and teaching them to do things because it’s the right thing to do? I’m still figuring it all out!