I’m having a tough time figuring out how to teach my kids self-discipline. I want them to be responsible but without being overly strict. I’ve tried a few things, but it feels like nothing lasts. They seem to do well for a bit, then revert back to their old ways. I’m really looking for some advice on effective methods to encourage self-discipline without being too harsh. Any strategies that have worked for you?
I remember when my child would leave toys scattered all over the living room, driving me a bit crazy. We started a simple point system where completing tasks earned him some screen time. What really surprised me was how much progress he made when I stepped back from constantly reminding him. We created a chart together for him to track his own progress. Sure, there are days he forgets, but overall he’s become much more aware of what needs to be done without my constant nudging.
We started with small expectations like making beds and putting dishes away. It took weeks before it stuck. Consistency helped more than any punishment system we tried. They know the outcome if chores don’t get done.